Before
Kim Sung Chul became ill, he was as proud and confident as
most young people. He believed that if he worked his best,
he could conquer anything. But when he fell ill and had to
rely on other people's help, he finally realized that
there were times when people were simply powerless.
Love from people, whether he knew them or not,
poured in to support him throughout his illness and
encouraged him to carry on.
Now he wants to grasp and experience every moment of
his life.
At Mass in the large chapel, Kim Sung Chul was talking
into a microphone, leading the faithful in their responses
to the priest's prayers.
The chapel on the fifth floor of St. Mary's Hospital in
Seoul, South Korea, was filled with patients holding their
IVs, sitting in wheelchairs, or leaning on canes. The
place was so fully packed with patients and their families
that no more people could get in.
The temperature was freezing outdoors, but the chapel
was filled with warmth. People were linked together with
God in this dignified religious ceremony. Sung Chul was
not tormented by his illness anymore, because he had found
strength in his faith, and furthermore he was spreading
the light of love and hope to other suffering people so
their hearts could find a restful shelter.
Family love is invaluable
When I became ill and needed
other people's help, I then realized that there were times
when people were simply powerless.
It
was an extremely cold day. The three of us--an
interpreter, a photographer and I--finally found Sung Chul
on a side street as we went to meet with him for an
interview. He had been volunteering at St. Mary's
Hospital. He looked healthy, so healthy that it seemed as
if those days when he wept for his failing health had been
completely left behind.
The story all started with a car accident. When he was
being treated for his injuries at St. Mary's, the doctor
found that his blood could not coagulate. He thought that
the problem wasn't very serious and that it was perhaps
caused by overworking. "I was working in a publishing
company and I had to carry heavy stuff, so I often felt
pain in my back and my joints..."
Then he went to a major hospital for more tests, and it
was confirmed that he was suffering from chronic leukemia.
His parents almost fainted when they heard the news.
They didn't know what to do, but they still had to face
it. Sung Chul's father, Kwang Soo, said that he was
willing to give up anything to save his son!
When Kwang Soo was young, he left the countryside to
work as the manager of a housing complex in Seoul. After
working for many years, he finally saved some money and,
along with a bank loan, bought a house. However, he had to
sell it to pay his son's medical bills.
"We used to live in a big house, but now we're in
a 'basement,'" said Kim's mother, Park Mo Do.
Actually, it was not a basement, but a small apartment
unit on the third floor. There was a bathroom between two
bedrooms. The living room was so small that one had to sit
on the floor, and a space was allotted for making meals.
The fridge stood in a corner of the apartment. If one
wanted to open the fridge, the bathroom or the bedroom
doors, a person sitting in the living room had to move
over to make it possible.
"We rent this place; we don't have enough money to
buy our own," said Sung Chul slowly. "When I was
in the hospital, our family had to pay the medical bills
every week, and that wasn't cheap." He saw the bill
once, and the figure was very painful to him.
It was a tough period. Mrs. Kim had to endure pain in
her hipbone while managing a small eatery every day to
support them. She didn't even dare to close it for a day.
"It was during the financial crisis and Sung Chul was
sick. Our lives were hard..."
"My mom was pretty weak physically," said
Sung Chul, "but she still had to manage her eatery. I
feel bad just thinking of it.”
Their plight stirred up love from their relatives. One
of Sung Chul's cousins married late and had hoped for a
child, but the hope had never come true. She wasn't rich,
but she had saved some money to pay for reproductive
services. Seeing the plight of the Kim family, she gave
the money to them and gave up her dream of having a baby.
The gentle Mrs. Kim recalled with a wry smile, "I
cried for two days when I got the money. The sum wasn't
very big, but it was priceless to me."
Mrs. Kim prayed for the niece every day because she had
nothing with which to pay back her kindness. But
unexpectedly, the niece later became pregnant and gave
birth to a healthy baby. The Kim family was delighted to
hear the news.
Believing in a better tomorrow
Many people encouraged me, and I also thought
positively so I could overcome the pain and have hope for
tomorrow.
In high school, Sung Chul had competed in judo, and he
was always very proud of his health. He believed he could
conquer anything. But when he became sick and needed other
people to help him, he realized that there were times when
people were simply powerless.
The leukemia would be terminal if left untreated, so he
was treated with chemotherapy. With constant torment to
his body and mind from the therapy, Sung Chul often felt
powerless.
He had no appetite for nearly six months. A bite of
food was enough to make him vomit. He received nutrients
intravenously to sustain his basic physical functions, but
his weight dropped from 80 to 50 kilograms (176 to 110
pounds). He moved his hand on his arm to simulate the flow
of nutrition into his arm, and he said with a sigh,
"I couldn't even enjoy my favorite kimchi."
He would watch the cooking shows on TV in the hospital
every day, and he would think about what he could eat the
next day and what he liked to eat. He also forced himself
to eat. He would close his mouth after each bite to force
back the urge to vomit. Unfortunately, he often vomited
when he took the second bite.
When he was sick, he was so weak that he had to lie in
bed every day, so his attending doctor nicknamed him
"the Sleeping Prince." Whenever the doctor did
his rounds, he would jokingly say, "Who's going to
wake up the prince?"
Spring arrived, and Sung Chul could see cherry blossoms
outside the window. He was determined to see the flowers
when he was discharged.
Once in a while a patient would die in the wards, and
Mrs. Kim wept every day because she feared her son would
die unexpectedly. The doctor at St. Mary's Hospital once
advised that he have a bone marrow transplant. However,
they couldn't find a suitable donor among Sung Chul's
relatives, so they sought help from bone marrow banks.
There was good news from the Korean and the Japanese
bone marrow banks, but for some reason the transplants
could not be carried out. Then on January 28, 2000, they
applied to the Tzu Chi Marrow Donor Registry. Four months
later, they received the good news that a match had been
found in Taiwan and the donor was willing to help out.
Sung Chul's mother got new hope that her son would be
saved.
On August 29, Sung Chul underwent the transplant
procedure, but he encountered complications: his red blood
cell count dropped, and his immune system wasn't working.
To save his life, the hospital contacted Tzu Chi to see if
a transplant of the donor's lymphocytes was possible.
Unexpectedly, the donor kindly agreed again.
"The donor didn't know us, and it was rare that a
donor would agree to a second transplant." Mrs. Kim
was grateful to this foreign donor's unselfish
contribution.
After the second transplant Sung Chul's immune system
started working, and three months later he was discharged
from the hospital. He could finally bid farewell to the
hospital bed.
Recalling the tormenting past, Sung Chul always
believed that tomorrow would be better. He said,
"Many people encouraged me and I had to think
positively. And now, I've made it!"
Helping other people
I was frightened and anxious when I was sick. After I
recovered, I started helping other people.
Sung Chul was 27 years old when he received the
transplant. After six years of recuperation, he looked so
healthy that it was hard to believe that he was once a
leukemia patient.
He said with a laugh, "When I told other patients
of my illness, they all thought I was kidding!"
"I was frightened and anxious while I was sick,
because I didn't know why I had it. After I had recovered
with help from other people, I believed I should help
other people."
Sung Chul was not a Catholic, but his Catholic friends
did their best to help him. They gave him the strength of
faith while he was ill. After he became well, he also
wanted to help other people with this power. He
volunteered in the hospital. He assisted the priest at
Mass, and he counseled patients with his own experiences.
When he had time in the evening, he met regularly with
other discharged patients.
During their meetings, they encouraged the donation of
platelets. Sung Chul observed that bone marrow donation
was unpopular in Korea, but platelet donation was
acceptable among the public and had helped many people.
"Sung Chul received a lot of help when he was sick
and he was cured by love, so he has to pay back the love
when he is healthy." Mrs. Kim also wanted to become a
volunteer. She added, "To think that a stranger could
help us like that! If possible, I want to do the
same."
For Sung Chul's health, his father quit his 50-year
smoking habit, and Sung Chul's brother, Seng Tak, has also
quit smoking.
Seng Tak, 32, is not married and doesn't like any kind
of nightlife. "When my brother was sick, I didn't
feel like going out. It's good to volunteer with my family
and to help other people with the strength of
religion."
The religion gives the Kim family a chance to help, and
it has also given Sung Chul a wife. He had never thought
about getting married, but when he was volunteering in the
hospital, his sincerity won Choi En Sil's heart. She said,
"When we were volunteering, I felt he was loving and
kind, so I believed he was reliable."
In October 2005, Sung Chul and En Sil got married. Mrs.
Kim likes her daughter-in-law. "She's kind, caring,
and understanding, and she likes to help other
people."
Sung Chul now works for a famous hi-tech company and
has won the hearts of his co-workers. "Whenever I
have to return to the hospital for a checkup, my boss
always agrees to it right away. I'm very lucky."
"Sung Chul is now healthy and married. I feel very
blessed," said Mrs. Kim. She has closed down her
eatery. An operation on her hipbone gave her a deeper
understanding about health: "We don't have to be very
rich; having a healthy body is the most important
thing."
Sung Chul's father has retired. He feels that he has no
worries because their family life is back to normal and
everyone is together. "As long as Sung Chul is
healthy, I can have peace of mind. All the past suffering
has gone."
The Kim family is quite curious as to whether the donor
in Taiwan could possibly be related to them. Could their
ancestors belong to the same family tree? They think about
the lifesaver constantly and hope to meet him someday.
However, Sung Chul has held his current job for just two
years. He looks forward to the chance of meeting the donor
in the future when his financial situation improves.
In the chapel, the prayers are sometimes quiet and
sometimes there is singing with the priest and Sung Chul.
The place is serene and solemn.
When Kim counsels other patients, he encounters some
who die and also those who become positive and try to help
other people. He tries to experience every moment of his
life. "You can't control life. It may disappear
suddenly. I was once ill, so now I must cherish it."
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